I was having a conversation with one of my male friends last night. We were talking about his son who is interested in learning how to please women. His son is younger twenty-something and not really looking for a long term relationship, but still he would like to know what woman want. I don’t think he is having too much trouble getting laid, so the idea that he is actually curious about how to please a woman comes from a genuine place. I think I have been so focused on women’s issues that I never really looked at what men must go through. My friend told me that there are a lot of books out there on what women should do to please or get the opposite sex, but there weren’t too many good ones for men.
He said he had started an investigation into this subject, but still seemed a little perplexed. He said he had watched Dr. Phil who was talking with women who never seemed to be able to keep a man. He watched Tyra Banks. He even read his wife’s Cosmo magazine to see what advice women were getting on how to please their men in bed, then he even had his wife try some of the techniques out on him. He said, BTW that the Cosmo tricks sucked, he didn’t enjoy any of them! He actually wondered where they were finding the men who liked this stuff. I am not sure which issue he was referring to.
I really enjoyed this conversation and was really appreciative to have a male friend who was generally interested in helping his son find ways to please women. I was impressed. So of course I went out and did a very general search on the topic.
I actually found a lot of suggestions and shocking secrets about women, but I am not sure of their value:
Women like men who are leaders
women want men to make them feel good
women want you to express love but don’t try to fake it because they will know
women like compliments if they are genuine
women like men who make them laugh
blondes are not really dumb they just act that way so you will give them what they want
all women are jealous even if they say they aren’t
all women want to know they are the sexiest
all women think they are fat even if they are skinny
women always lie about shopping, if they say they are going grocery shopping they will still come home with something for themselves
all women share their intimate secrets with their friends so never tell them anything you don’t want everyone to know
women will judge you buy your shoes . . . WTF?
Either way what I found mostly were e-books or other books that for a fee taught men how to:
Approach any woman, anywhere and get her to give you her number and go out on a date with you. Many also taught men how to get any woman to go to bed with them, and it didn’t matter if the guy was fat, ugly, bald or unemployed. These techniques work everytime. They even give you your money back if it doesn’t work. Pretty impressive!
Then I hit the mother load when I found out about this guy named Norman Nawrocki who does a show called, Lessons From a 7 ‘ Penis. He goes around teaching men and women about sex. I found a video clip and I think this stuff is great! It’s a little juvenile, but it’s also funny!
You see the thing is, I think you can supply every technique in the book, every trick of the trade and still not get a man or woman to fall for you. What’s important is that you want to please your partner. Maybe it’s also time to realize that looks are not everything. I mean we all, especially men, want a partner who is really good looking, but if you want a relationship that will last a lifetime remember that everyone ages and may not look as good at 80 as they do now, so if you don’t have the ability to communicate, share common goals and interests, have trust and mutually satisfying sex life and most importantly a commitment to making a relationship work none of the other stuff really matters. Women do know when a man is sincere. So be honest, be genuine, be yourself then put forth effort with the agenda of meeting that person who is right for you and it will happen.
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I would love, love to know everyone’s opinion on this subject so please, do tell!
What has attracted you to the opposite sex? What qualities do you find appealing? What do you want in a relationship?