Can You Believe a Woman Actually Wrote This?:
“There is a big difference between women going through menopause and men going through midlife crisis: women are more prepared. We have read about it, talked to our girlfriends, our shrink and are allowed to show and verbalise our emotions. We have a support system in place that we can call upon.
Men don’t understand what they are going through and why they feel the way they do.
Your husband or partner will not want to admit that he feels old, unattractive, out of shape, overweight, balding, unhappy in his career and overburdened by responsibilities. He is frightened by the thought that he might die before he has really lived.
He looks at his life and can only find fault: not enough money, too much debt, too much work, too much responsibility, no fun or play, getting old, fat and depressed. He has become negative and quite frankly, he is fed up.”
Please give me a break!
No woman is prepared for menopause and there isn’t a man on the planet who hasn’t heard of the “MidLife Crisis” What women doesn’t go through what he is experiencing all the time? Thinking about being overweight, too much responsibility, your life is over before it’s even begun . . . what a crock of shit! The reason women seem to be able to handle these emotions better is because they seek to. I also think this an insult to men because it makes them seem like incapable children who are not able to deal with life’s little eventualities.
Many men, (around 10%), will soothe themselves in the arms of a younger, more attractive woman and leave their also middle aged partner to fend for herself. So now she is going through or nearing menopause which is like walking through hell doused in gasoline, while he is off trying to claim his forgotten youth. Adding to the unfairness of it all is the fact that he, having established himself in a career and a lifetime of relationships is now very alluring to younger women who are not so thrilled with the maturity and income levels of guys their own age. While his wife is left with the responsibilities of the household, her raging hormones, the fear of facing the dating scene and the competition of the other women who are younger than her or in her exact situation.
So I just don’t feel any pain for married men going through a midlife crisis because no matter how you look at it their wives are stuck with the shitty end of the stick.
I do applaud all men who recognize what is going on with them and who chose to work through it with their wives and who chose to honor their commitments. Because all of us, men and women alike know from a very early age that we will grow older. Hopefully we can see this time as a second more enlightened time of life where we mature and grow old gracefully instead of acting out like children who solve our problems by running away from them.
Whew, glad to get that out!