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Comment on Surgery Update! Squeamish? Don’t Look ~ Graphic Fibroid Photos to Follow! by dontdatethatdude

dontdatethatdude — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 21:01:17 +0000

Thank you! It’s my honor!

Comment on DO Men Really Love Bitches? by SAS

SAS — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 03:06:26 +0000

Beanfishy – I saw no one has replied to what you wrote so I wanted the honor. Unfortunately, there is no easy answer to your conundrum and the change that creates higher self esteem has to come from within…..
This can make it an on going struggle since you are your own worst enemy and the gate keeper of your emotional freedom all at once.
I think a lot of women have struggled with this at some point in the past so there is plenty of good reference material if you look (EG- books and websites).
A good point of reference for me and others is to remove myself from whatever the relationship scenario is (in my mind) and consider whether or not I would want this guy treating my niece or sister or mother or friend this way.
When doing this exercise it’s important to try not to be bias or create excuses.
This takes a little work but when it’s implemented I think you will find that it really helps you to see the forest through the trees.
Good luck my dear!

Comment on I Was Humbled Today . . . by ZPayne

ZPayne — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 05:53:20 +0000

I imagine a group of surgical doctors standing back looking at the healthy woman’s sphincter and agreeing: “We could make this better, we have the technology…” LOL

Comment on Surgery Update! Squeamish? Don’t Look ~ Graphic Fibroid Photos to Follow! by Corinn

Corinn — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 21:18:39 +0000

Thanks for posting the pictures and being so honest and up front about the whole experience. It’s people like you who post pictures and information that make it better for the rest of us. Thanks for making a difference!! Best of luck to you.

Comment on Some Time Before Night by dontdatethatdude

dontdatethatdude — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 16:37:47 +0000

Glad to oblige! Thanks so much for reading!

Comment on Some Time Before Night ~ The End by dontdatethatdude

dontdatethatdude — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 16:36:49 +0000

Thanks you are too kind .. . I am happy you will still agree to read my stuff . . . LOL I feel the same way about your writing, except yours is much funnier! Glad to thought provoke, it makes my day!

Comment on Surgery Update! Squeamish? Don’t Look ~ Graphic Fibroid Photos to Follow! by dontdatethatdude

dontdatethatdude — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 20:40:55 +0000

Good luck with your surgery! Estrogen seems to be the culprit in having them grow back. I was told not to consume soy or dairy products and red meat, note anything that contains hormones that will add to your own…. I hope this helps! And again . . . be well!

Comment on Marry Me or Else! by Betty

Betty — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 14:19:45 +0000

For Lagunasweetie – Why do you want to marry this man? If he treats you this badly just dating, marrying him will make things worse. He sounds like a narcissistic love addict type – at least from what you are saying. It’s hard to pull away from people we love or think we love but I think it’s necessary if they detract more from your life than enhance it. As his wife you would feel more obligated to stick it out and so far it sounds like it’s not going well. I’ve never seen marriage solve problems that existed pre-marriage.

In general I think that string-along relationships never work out as healthy relationships. If a guy has been too comfortable with you or taking you for granted or doesn’t want to break up but won’t commit… I think it’s unlikely that it will somehow become a healthy relationship through marriage. Sometimes we might want to get married but we have to think of our own needs too… no one wants to get stuck with a loser.

Comment on Some Time Before Night ~ The End by Magila

Magila — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 19:07:36 +0000

As always I am amazed at the way your writing touches on every point. Like a stream wetting everything in it’s path nothing escapes saturation.

K and S show us many things in this story. More of a story of weakness than of strength. Yet what strength it takes to beat cancer and also to stay with someone you no longer want to be with. Many points of view to argue here.
Trajedy does not so clearly define us. What is said is often not done, and when they do combine it does not necessarily define the person as much as it defines their reaction to a situation. I Know through the magic of hindsight i wish i could have chosen better, the things I had done in many a cicumstance.

Love the story it was great and thought provoking

Comment on Surgery Update! Squeamish? Don’t Look ~ Graphic Fibroid Photos to Follow! by Kleanliving

Kleanliving — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 23:57:03 +0000

Having surgery next week. I have 5 total, so reading this helps ease anxiety although I’m pretty sure I will be so nauseous from fear next week bright an early as the first patient of the day. Btw, I heard they grow back. One friend took out a grapefruit and in 1 yr another grapefruit formed…trying to find out why it grows in some women more that others, my sisters, aunts, mom, grandma never had them unless I can say I’ve been living a high stress life most of my life and maybe stress may be the biggest factor in all this.