Enter William Michael Barber:
I’m lookin at him and I can’t believe he got one, and he’s better looking than most of the guys featured on “Fighting Bigamy” one of the few websites that features stories of Bigamists and their escapades. Seems these dudes are charming, flamboyant, affectionate, sociopaths. They bewitch women with stories of their business success, family values and animal magnetism. Another website devoted to teaching women about bigamy, “LoveFraud.com” says there are 3 million sociopaths in America and that you could already know one or are bound to meet at least one in your lifetime, ick!
Mr. Barber here used at least 20 alias’, and once he gained his target’s trust he would clean out their savings and leave them in financial ruin:
Here’s part of the story:
“He told one wife he was a surgeon on sabbatical, he told one he was a former professional football player, he told another he was a Vietnam vet, and yet another he was a bio-terrorism expert. He told people he was shot in Vietnam. He said John Ashcroft was a good friend of his. He even told one wife he had leukemia. Nothing he said was true.”
LoveFraud is a really excellent site that explains how to spot a con man, actually provides you with a self-help questionaire to see if you could be a target and has in-depth explanations about their behaviors. Of course I find this all fascinating!
Some signs that you are dealing with a con man are:
Inflated or non-existent credentials
Establishing trust in the beginning
Intense eye contact
Attempts to isolate the target from family and friends
Egocentric or grandiose
Glib and superficial
Lack of empathy and shallow emotions
Lack of remorse or guilt
This is just a partial list . . .
LoveFraud also lists 14 trues stories of Bigamists and this guy takes the cake:
Again not the hottie you might expect, but he used telephone dating services to snare his tagets:
“convincing them of his romantic intentions. To enhance his credibility, Giblin claimed he was a law enforcement officer, his father was a judge and his brother was a prosecutor. Giblin then told the women he was relocating to their areas. While supposedly en route, he fabricated an emergency, said he didn’t have access to his cash, and asked for a loan. He promised to pay them back as soon as he arrived.
When the women sent him money via Western Union, Giblin went directly to a casino.
Giblin ran the scam from 2000 until his arrest on March 3, 2005. He defrauded 132 women out of a total of $320,241—and those are just the cases that the authorities know about.”
Not all bigamists are men Joseph Couden-Case victim of Margo Jolly:
“After my wife committed bigamy, my thoughts on marriage is very vague and clouded with pain and agony. There is a difference between loving and liking someone. I love her for giving birth to my children I dislike the things that she has done to me, both families involved, and most importantly the kids. . .”
“There is no way anyone can imagine the pain and devastation left behind in the path of a bigamist. The potential for damage is overwhelming. Overnight, many lives are turned inside out when it has been revealed that the person that you gave your love and your complete trust to has betrayed you. The emotional and financial scars are deep. Imagine finding your wife’s review of a Las Vegas wedding chapel. A review that she wrote about her wedding to another man, while she was still married to you . . .”
I find it appalling that one person could use another person like and ATM machine and yet it happens all the time. You might even know someone who this has happened to. It’s why I always say pay attention when getting into relationships, if he seems too good to be true he probably is. If he starts asking to borrow money just say NO! Even if he seems to have a good reason for the loan, because if he has no other financial resources, like friends or family you might want to ask yourself why. Why would he ask someone he barley knows for money?
Because . . .”Our archaic system is failing in our transitional, wireless-based society of today. Moreover, Internet dating sites have given many of these predators a whole new supply. Our fragile system is taken advantage of by serial bigamists sociopaths and con artists. . .”
In most states marriage records are not part of public record, but obtaining marriage licenses is incredibly easy. If people could search a database of marriage records they could find out right away if someone was already married and this might prevent the inevitable grief that ensues. If you agree with this you can sign a petition here:
Petition for National Database of Marriages and Divorces, there are only 658 signatures so far. I am going to add mine!
If you find that yourself in unsatisfying, drama filled relationships or cycling through relationship after relationship read this post: Are You Addicted to Love?