I often read about crimes of passion at psychoforlove, because I am fascinated by obsession and also by the idea of what people will do in the name of love. I found an article about a man and women who were drinking and arguing, go figure, and when he said something to her that pissed her off she threw a potato at him, hit him in the nose and knocked him unconscious. This struck me as hilarious. The wife immediately called for medical assistance and the husband didn’t press charges against her, but the incident made it onto a police blotter.
I was thinking back to my previous relationships and tried to remember any incidents where I flung a potato or anything at my partner, but couldn’t come up with anything, except one time I punched my husband in the mouth and ran away fast. It was not something I thought about, it kind of just happened in a fit of rage after hours of arguing. Then he cornered me and I had to get out of there, so I reacted. Fight and flight. I felt terrible immediately and apologized profusely. Violence of any kind is never acceptable, but it happens a lot in “dysfunctional” relationships, especially when one person pushes the other beyond reasonable limits.
I wonder, have you ever done anything that could be construed as violent towards a partner?
If you did how did you feel about it afterwards?