It’s New Year’s Eve. A time of Endings. A time of New Beginnings. A time to blog about resolutions, but I would like to talk about letting go of the past fully so we can allow the new to usher in. This can be bring about great sorrow and regret, because we like to hold onto our pain. Pain can be a comfort. Pain can become a place to lapse back to when moving ahead makes us afraid. I think we grow accustomed to pain, like a little friend we can call up when we want to assure ourselves we are still feeling. Pain is the bastard we are used to and joy is the one who got away.
Joy is the one we can never get our arms around. We dwell in the past ruminating on how we could of, should of done things differently even though we know we can’t change anything now. We hold on instead of accepting what is. We, all of us, have an inner control freak who thinks it can change circumstances, change other people’s minds, make someone love us, even if they don’t, and it is the control freak who gets us into trouble because it won’t let go. I say don’t listen to it anymore! Not just as a New Year’s Resolution, because we all know how long they last, but as a life long dialogue you have with yourself whenever you think you can change another person’s mind or behavior. Remember it is just a voice in your head!
Can you relate to this?
Do you think that you can make someone else love you?
If you do, just think about a time when someone loved you and wanted you back, but you were no longer into the relationship was there anything they could do to make you love them?
Sometimes we just have to accept that we can’t make someone love us, if they don’t!