The landscape of psychoanalysis is littered with terminology that attempts to label human behavior. The study of the human mind and human reactions is so common place now that even the lay person uses labels that were once applied only by therapists. Labels are easy and we use them innocently enough. I think we do it because we desperately want to understand why we do what we do. We want to understand it and label it so it will stop hurting. I think we figure that if we can understand it the pain will go away faster than if we just let it happen, because sitting with it, the pain that is, seems so much harder than making it logical.
In some ways this helps. Self examination helps. What I am referring to here are those occurrences that trigger memories that in turn trigger emotions that make us feel uncomfortable. I experience them a lot. I can be “triggered” by any number of experiences. I can be shoveling snow, or reading a book or taking a shower and it will happen. At first I won’t even notice what is going through my mind. Why all of a sudden I am just angry or sad, or why I am reliving conversations that happened a long time ago, but it happens and when it does I have realized the best thing to do is notice it, and then feel what I am feeling, even if it means I have to cry again, or write about it again or talk to someone about it again. I can label it if I want to, but that never seems to help. I have to feel my way through it and I have to stop myself from thinking I should be over it by now since it happened such a long time ago.
Healing takes however long it takes. Period.
So what sets you off and what do you do about it?