Posts Tagged ‘happiness’


Dan Millman is a real man, I don’t mean he’s real man like a “real” man’s-man. I mean he is an actual living person who has a website and everything. The movie, “Peaceful Warrior” is the story of his life or a part of his life that, according him actually happened. Well I must confess, I did not research it because I like to think it did happen. I like to think that events depicted in the movie can happen in real life. I have always been a dreamer. I have always believed that anything can happen, because otherwise life is just too boring. So maybe someone who has the time and inclination can check it out and see if he has combined truth and fiction. In some ways the story reminds me of the Celestine Prophecy only more real and in movie form it’s just easy. I know they turned the Celestine Prophecy into a movie too, but it was really kind of lame, and the Peaceful Warrior is kind of lame too, but I liked it a lot. I have watched it a lot. It is one of those movies I turn re-watch on Showtime or HBO over and over again, just to have something in the background.

Last night I had it on before sleep and I realized the lessons are not new ones. It teaches us to stay in the present. It teaches us detachment, it teaches us many things and I like the way it’s delivered because you don’t have to have a long, serious history of Buddhism or Taoism or whatever ism it teaches in order to see, understand, take in and hopefully learn what could work for you. I awoke this morning feeling refreshed, enlightened and very, very happy after remembering those lessons from The Peaceful Warrior. And today I’m thinking, shit, if watching a cheesy kind of film can fill me with enlightenment, joy, bliss, fervor, insert good feeling work of your choice here, then I am in.

I think I’ll go buy it!

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Serenity Sunday

I got this in my email the other day and have been saving it to post for Serenity Sunday. I thought it was very cute and I could relate to it! I hope you enjoy it!

Inner Strength

If you can start the day without caffeine

If you can always be cheerful, ignoring aches and pains

If you can resist complaining and boring people with your troubles

If you can eat the same food everyday and be grateful for it

If you can understand when your loved ones are too busy to give you any time, (this is a tough one)

If you can take criticism and blame without resentment

If you can conquer tension without medical help.

If you can relax without adult beverages

If you can sleep without the aid of drugs

Then you are probably The Family Dog!

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Recently I have been very interested in finding the key to happiness. Yeah, Yeah, I know this could be described as a universal quest, but regardless of the fact the my journey to adventure is the same as everyone else’s I have set about investigating it. You see in the beginning I thought, erroneously that the key to happiness would be secured when I found a husband. But my error was in thinking that marriage was a magically delicious zone where happiness was granted. What I found out, after the thrill wore off was that I still was not happy, sometimes not even content. I wasn’t in the “best” marriage, with the “best” guy in the world, but at the time I thought he was, so I am factoring that into my happiness equation, but still. I believe that happiness is something I should bring to the relationship and I know that I did, many times I did, but I also brought a lot of other stuff too. Most of it emotional baggage which I’ve written about before. But now that I am single and relying on myself I have been not really reading about happiness as much as doing what I want to find it in my daily life. I am defining happiness as a simple peacefulness that feels warm all under and it’s a place where I am completely satisfied with my own company. It feels like I have a smile on the inside and I also find myself smiling, just because. This is a nice feeling.

While on my quest without really searching I found a blog/website called “The Happiness Project“, because if I have thought of it there is always someone out there who thought of it first. One of my goals is to have an original idea, but this wasn’t one of them. The founder of the site is writing a book and yesterday she wrote about 8 psychological terms to strength friendships. It was an interesting read and if you want to click over it’s up to you. But one of the things she mentioned was “the duty to be happy”. I am not sure I agree with making happiness a duty because I am all for feeling what you are feeling and then acknowledging it somewhere, because happiness is not something that can be forced. I believe that forcing any emotion can lead to repression of what is real. I am not advocating walking around in a cloud of negativity all day either. I think what I am saying is, that in life, in day-to-day existence there are times when we will not be happy and I think it is our duty to admit it, then we can make light of it, then we can clear the air.

Let’s face it, if happiness was a constant there wouldn’t be so many people searching to find it, in books, in religions, in relationships. Happiness is a part of life, one part. Developing a happy spirit to embrace life is another and accepting what life offers is the key!

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Todays Focus: Happiness Quotes

Happiness is never stopping to think if you are.

~Palmer Sondreal

Most people would rather be certain they’re miserable, than risk being happy.

~Robert Anthony

The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up.

~Mark Twain

If only we’d stop trying to be happy we could have a pretty good time.

~Edith Wharton

Happiness is always a by-product. It is probably a matter of temperament, and for anything I know it may be glandular. But it is not something that can be demanded from life, and if you are not happy you had better stop worrying about it and see what treasures you can pluck from your own brand of unhappiness.

~Robertson Davies

Those who can laugh without cause have either found the true meaning of happiness or have gone stark raving mad.

~Norm Papernick

“Well,” said Pooh, “what I like best,” and then he had to stop and think. Because although Eating Honey was a very good thing to do, there was a moment just before you began to eat it which was better than when you were, but he didn’t know what it was called.

~A.A. Milne

What a wonderful life I’ve had! I only wish I’d realized it sooner.


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I am reading an interesting book called, “The Geography of Bliss” by, Eric Weiner. It caught my attention because he is a journalist who spent much of his career working for NPR and visiting places where War and other bad things happen. He decided after a time that he wanted to find the happiest places in the world in an attempt to discover a common thread to eternal bliss, or at least what makes people in those places happy.

He started in the Netherlands because that is where The World Database of Happiness is located, yup they compile data about the worlds happiest places. To be precise this is how they describe the site:

The World Data Base of Happiness is an ongoing register of scientific research on the subjective enjoyment of life. It brings together findings that are scattered throughout many studies and provides a basis for synthetic work. The Database consists of the following interrelated collections, the interconnections of which are visualized on a flowchart.

It’s all very scientific, while they try to pinpoint and measure what makes human beings happy. What I found very interesting was that at one point Weiner writes about a philosopher named, Robert Nozick who I am not familiar with, but if you click the link you will find him at Wikipedia, who was interested in the study of hedonism and happiness. It says he devised an experiment called the “The Experience Machine”, the machine wasn’t real, but in the experiment people were asked if there was a machine that would do you no physical or mental harm that you could plug yourself into that would make you experience happiness 24-7 would you plug into it. Most people said they would not do it. The consensus being the human experience would not be what it is without a full range of emotions and if we did not encounter sadness we would not know joy.

I agree, although I would like to plug in to the machine myself, a lot! Insert the giant happy face here! Which brings me to my next discovery. There was actually a guy named David Stern of David Stern, Inc who created the “Smiley” in 1967 for an ad campaign he was doing for Washington Mutual. He didn’t think to trademark it though, much to his unhappiness I am sure. It’s amazing what one little smile can do!

I haven’t finished the book, I learned all this in the first chapter, can you imagine? But reading about the experience machine reminded me of a quote for today, because I think being blissfully happy all the time is not what life is about. I also think that our constant search to experience happiness and avoid pain leads to more unhappiness. So I will leave you with this for today:

For everything there is a season,
And a time for every matter under heaven:
A time to be born, and a time to die;
A time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted;
A time to kill, and a time to heal;
A time to break down, and a time to build up;
A time to weep, and a time to laugh;
A time to mourn, and a time to dance;
A time to throw away stones, and a time to gather stones together;
A time to embrace, And a time to refrain from embracing;
A time to seek, and a time to lose;
A time to keep, and a time to throw away;
A time to tear, and a time to sew;
A time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
A time to love, and a time to hate,
A time for war, and a time for peace.

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

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